Lecture - Sunday 24th August 2025
Jennifer Deaton - Connection, Community, Mediumship, Friendship
A speech by someone who talks to spirits, befriends humans, and occasionally loses their keys in the astral plane.
Good morning, fellow humans, semi-humans, and those who are just here for the snacks. I am Jennifer from “Hand to Heart” Healing.
Today, I want to talk about four things that make life worth living:
Connection, Community, Mediumship, and Friendship. Or as I like to call them: the Four Horsemen of the Feel-Good Apocalypse.
Before we dive in, raise your hand if you have ever…
- Sent a text and immediately regretted it.
- Laughed at a meme in a serious work meeting.
- Wondered if your dog is the reincarnation of your favorite uncle.
Perfect. We’re all family now dead or alive.
Part 1: Connection — More than bars on a Screen, Let’s start with connection. In today’s world, we’re more connected than ever. I can send a text to someone in Iceland, order a pizza from my phone, and accidentally like my ex’s Instagram post from 2017—all before breakfast.
But real connection? That’s harder. It’s not about Wi-Fi bars—it’s about emotional bandwidth. And let’s be honest, some days we’re all running on 1G.
I know, I know—everyone brags about being “hyper-connected.” You’ve got more apps than friends, and your screen time chart looks like a heart monitor for someone who just ran a marathon. Real connection? That’s when you look someone in the eye and actually see their soul . . . before scrolling Instagram under the table. On paper, we’re hyper-connected
humans of the 21st century. That’s the underground, secret-menu version.
- Texting “You, okay?” and meaning it, not just fishing for “Haha,
yep!” - Showing up for the big moments—and the small ones, like that
weird Tuesday they decide to adopt a pet snake.
I once tried a “digital detox” retreat. Day one: bliss. Day two: sheer panic. Day three: I told a group of actual trees about my feelings and half-expected them to gossip back. The takeaway? We crave
screens—but what we really need is heart-to-heart bandwidth. Some days we’re running on 5G emotion. Other days we’re stuck with 1G: barely enough to stream tears. Let’s aim for unlimited emotional data.
Interactive Moment
Turn to a neighbour, make eye contact for ten seconds—no phones allowed. If you both survive without laughing, congratulations: you just made a real connection.
Part 2: Community—Your Weird, Wonderful Tribe. If connection is a one-on-one call, community is the chaotic group chat—complete with: Random mems of dancing llamas at 3 AM and no one knows why. Ah yes, the beautiful chaos of people coming together. Community is like a group chat: sometimes uplifting, sometimes confusing, and someone’s
inevitably spilling tea at 2 AM. But find your people—those weirdos who’ll bail you out of jail, listen to your midnight meltdown, but it’s in community that we find our weird, wonderful tribe. That’s the squad you never knew you had. The people who will show up for you, even if you only bribed them with wine and cheese.
- Someone oversharing about their latest existential crisis.
- That one friend who will never RSVP but always shows up with wine.
Communities come in all Flavours: Family by birth (the ones who still borrow your stuff without asking).
- Family by choice (your ride-or-die crew who bail you out of jail—or from a really bad date).
- Hobby tribes (knitters, cosplay pals, extreme pickleballs—no judgment).
I belong to a community of ghost-hunting yogis. Yes, our mats double as Ouija boards. We meet on full moons, do sun salutations, and then I politely ask spirits to pass on my lost car keys. True story: one ghost guided me to them—sunken behind the couch, next to last year’s tax returns.
Why communities matter:
- They hold you accountable—especially when you promise to “only
have one more.” - They give you perspective—“No, you’re not crazy, your ex really
did leave you for their cat.”
They celebrate you—birthday serenades, confetti bombs, or that time you finally finished a jigsaw puzzle.
Interactive Moment
Who here has ever felt that warm, tingly “I belong” moment? Shout out one community you love—and if it’s weird, scream it louder.
Part 3: Mediumship Taking Messages from the Other Side, Now for the niche—but oh-so-juicy—world of mediumship. I talk to spirits. Not the kind in a bottle—although tequila does make Aunt Mildred more forgiving—but the ones who knock, whisper, and occasionally wreak
harmless prank havoc.
What I do is simple: I’m a cosmic receptionist. My daily tasks include:
- Answering inbound calls from Great-Aunt Betsy, who wants to comment on your new haircut.
- Mediating mid-life crises for ghosts stuck debating whether to haunt or haunt not.
- Delivering messages like, “Uncle Frank apologizes for the lawnmower incident—again.”
Let me share a few highlights:
The Case of the Disappearing Dentures
Last Halloween, a spirit insisted my client’s missing dentures were buried under a rosebush. We dug. They were there. After twenty years.
Moral of the Story: ghosts have precise filing systems—and excellent horticultural taste.
The Espresso-Powered Ghost
Grandpa Karl refuses decaf in the afterlife. Every morning at 3 AM, the coffee machine sputters to life—ghost hands on the lever. I say: Leave the living alone, Old Man Karl. We’re trying to sleep.
Why mediumship? Because sometimes wisdom sounds like disembodied sass. That voice from beyond reminds us:
- Everyone’s opinion matters—dead or alive.
- Regret is a universal language.
- We should return our cousin’s Tupperware. Seriously.
Interactive Moment
Close your eyes for ten seconds. If you sense a breeze or hear a whisper, that’s just Aunt Mildred telling you it’s time to nap.
Part 4: Friendship—Your Sanity’s Secret Sauce, Finally, we reach friendship. If community is the village, friendship is that person who shows up with duct tape when you set your hair on
fire—figuratively or literally.
Friends are the chosen family who:
Know your flaws better than you do—and adore you anyway.
Will tell you when your aura looks like last week’s gym socks.
Let you quote entire Oprah monologues—and don’t judge when
you cry through dessert.
Let’s break down friendship into its core ingredients:
1. Honesty
– “Yes, you look amazing.”
– “No, that outfit is a crime against fashion.”
2. Loyalty
– Standing by you during career changes, heartbreaks, and that ill-
advised tattoos phase.
3. Fun
– Spontaneous Road trips, karaoke nights, and skydiving selfies.
A close friend once texted me: “I dreamt I was married to a llama.
Should I be worried?”
My response: “Only if the llama doesn’t do dishes.” Because real friendship is equal parts sage advice and utter nonsense.
Interactive Moment
High-five the person next to you. If they flinch, they need to work on their chakra alignment.
Weaving the Invisible Threads
So what binds connection, community, mediumship, and friendship into a life-changing tapestry?
Invisible threads that:
Stretch across continents (your 3 AM text from Japan).
Span the threshold between life and afterlife (cosmic group chat).
Tie you to people who laugh with you, cry with you, and still got your back when you spilled red wine on their white couch.
Here’s your Four-Step Blueprint:
- Open your heart’s hotspot—prioritize face-to-face over face-to-screen.
- Cultivate your clan—find your weirdos, your soulmates, your midnight meme lords.
- Listen beyond the living—value the lessons from every voice, pitched beyond the veil.
- Cherish your confidants—because friendship is the ultimate life hack.
Call to Action and Closing
Now go forth, brave soul:
Text someone you haven’t talked to since—gasp—yesterday.
Host a micro-community meetup—coffee, crystals, or karaoke, you choose.
Listen for that midnight whisper—maybe it’s a gentle nudge from beyond.
Thank your best friend—preferably in person, or at least in an emoji-rich group chat.
Life without these pillars is like a phone without power: dim screen, empty battery, and zero midnight selfies. But with real connection, community, mediumship, and friendship—your soul’s signal will be stronger than any 6-bar Wi-Fi.
Bonus: Next-Level Engagement Ideas
- Host a “Connection Challenge” at your next gathering—no devices, just genuine eye contact and confessions.
Thank you.